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The saga of a beautiful change

December 12, 2011 Leave a comment

Since time immemorial the make up of my living room was pending … though the intentions were always there but for some reasons it just wasn’t happening! And the walls of the living room along with the basic furniture had succumbed to cribbing and talking negative about me for not giving them any time nor making any increment in their looks … almost like we all do for our jobs!

Now after a week’s running around the furniture shops, handloom houses, tailors and several visits to ATMs I can feel some positivity coming towards me from the adorned walls and newly cushioned chairs. The walls have made friendship with the windows wanting to share the hue of the new curtains which are now beautifully adorning them and the windows want to reciprocate to ensure they get the good view of the beautiful colorful landscapes the walls now have accessorizing them!

If this isn’t for beginning of new relationships, wait till I tell you what the old wood has to say for the new entity that has now joined them. The old chairs seem to have got a new lease of life or as they say a fresh breath of air has come in their life … the pair of the new chairs is nothing less then a pair of handsome suitors for them! They just can’t take their eyes away from them. All they want to do is being paired with them and be the one who matches them with their feminine beauty.

Joining the wood and walls are the doors … they just can’t seem to get enough of the violet curtains which now drape them … with their semi transparent look and style … the doors don’t know what to hide and what to share! They are simply speechless …

Same is the story for the old upholstery … its in awe of the new pieces which are all in different shades of purple and pink and match the soft and glowing light of the tall and lean lamp shade at every step!

There is a different aura to the entire place … at some points screaming power which purple gives while at some places it goes all feminine and soft which pink leaves wherever it has the reach. For me the feeling is a mix one … it heartens me to have such conversations going in my living room … of new hope, of new beginnings, of curiosity, of jealousy, of love! This gives me some more ‘Hope’ that all that we want does come to us even if it seems a little unreachable and highly unrealistic at times. It also reiterates ‘vision is more effective then planning’. But the thought that is surely a winner is ‘nothing comes to us unless we are determined and willing to give every thing we have as the price for what we want to have in our life’.

Categories: Spirituality, Trivia

eAT pRAY lOVE

November 18, 2011 3 comments

Finished reading ‘Eat pray love’ by Elizbeth Glibert

First two parts are fine but in the third one the charm goes way for some reason … almost as if the author herself lost interest while writing and so the text does not touch you at all (in retrospect … maybe the pray part is so strong that it outshines everything else!)

The first part concentrates on the eating and just being … the entire experience can be summed up in Bel Far Niente – ‘the art of doing nothing’. The art of just being and not doing anything at all … it’s an interesting concept – and would be fun if one can do it and has the resources for the same.

 The second part is the one which impresses me the most. It is all about praying and really praying not just doing some religious mumbo jumbo. I liked the way she tries to connect with GOD and how she actually comes by GOD. The description of various techniques of meditation – breathing, vipasana, silence etc is the ‘real’ thing in the book … her experiences with meditating and all that happened as a result is worth reading the whole lot of elaborated thoughts.

My personal favorite is the instance when she decides that she will be the silent and sober person rather she thought she will like to act like that and then ironically is given the job to be for meeting all new guests. She is asked to be the key contact person for the new lot to ensure that everyone is taken care of. This brings an abrupt end to her idea of being the silent and sober one but nevertheless she enjoys the experience and realizes her true calling is not being silent but being the catalyst to connect people through her friendly demeanor and multi cultural exposure. This makes her realize that sometimes even we do not know what we are capable of but there is always a bigger scheme of things and there every person has a fixed role.

The fact that sometimes we are bent on doing things just because we think we are made for that and then suddenly things change and we are thrown in to a totally different track and we realize we can only fool ourselves and that supreme power above somewhere knows when we are way off the track and when the course needs to be corrected.

I identify with it completely. No mater how wise we think we are … sometimes we are totally on a tangent and then something or some one just kicks us back in to the right orbit.

Also I realized that the author herself changes during this time … her ramblings which were at the extreme in the first part slow down … she is more focused. Where in the first part she was all over in this part there are strong lines in her thought and writing and thus more clarity for herself and for the reader.

The third part is completely lost I can’t remember much of it … it’s like the open ended thing, where there are no lines and no emotions. For some reasons it just dose not touch or make you want to read anything. It’s almost as if she lost interest and wanted to finish the book somehow. The abrupt end testifies just that.

All in all the book is good and has given me the following

– Made me meditate again … after many years altogether

– Once again ignited the need to seeRome… and travel once more

But it also made me question … for all my independence do I have it in me to travel alone … go out and be on my own … duno have no answers right now

Categories: Books, Spirituality, Travel

Bengolism

October 15, 2010 Leave a comment

Being a UPiete, W Bengal was always only a far away state on the map. Adding to the ignorance was the firm opinion of my mom that all Bengolies are quarrelsome and so good to be avoided. She had her own reason and I never questioned her like so many others of her diktats.

So to me the connotation of the word ‘Bengoli’ was very limited. Infact I had only one meaning and one reference – Bengolies celebrated something called Durga Puja every year and we were forced to see it at least once at a residential colony with the name ‘Durga Baari’! My memories of this are very vague – and all I can remember is the crowd and chaos. I am talking of my teenager days and like any other teenager I was totally disinterested in going anywhere even least crowded … so it was a complete pain and I would try and avoid it as much as possible. But parents have to do some things and I am thankful that in spite of tantrums I was exposed to many things and the yearly ritual visit to Puja Pandals was one of them!

But to be honest, it’s only in the recent years that the ‘Bengolism’ has become more real to me. Thanks to some Bengoli Friends, I have now been exposed to all Bengoli Things … from rituals … dress sense … nature … eccentricities … must for bengoli things … their shortcomings … sharp intellect etc .

If this wasn’t enough, some more bengolism was rubbed on to me once I joined what can be easily termed as a Bengoli Organisation – a company with strong Bengoli domination … CII!

To me, the most startling feature of the Bengolies, other then their big round bindi and the beer belly paunch is their ‘community bonding’. In all my interactions with Bengolies – community bonding comes across very strong – and it is most evident during Puja. Infact, Puja further strengthens this bonding. The way each and everyone participates in the puja – devotes times for practicing –  for shopping gifts for everyone –  for decorating and managing the pandals is a case study of sorts in itself – of participatory management! More so coz the story of crabs in a jar not letting anyone getting out is so often compared to the bengolies!

But none of this shows during the puja –  when all come together and work towards one aim of having the best Puja Pandal –  or when they sit together for Khichdi and Sabji or preparing for the ‘Gaan’ for the cultural evening. There is no evidence of any markings of economic status or any other differentials playing a role.

Yet another factor which plays a huge role in this bonding is their language! Unlike the North Indians who all have more or less a same root language, Bengolies have a distinct language – a unique communication tool! No matter which part of the country they may come from – their language binds them instantly – not leaving any scope for awkward silences and the connection is usually emotional and the same as that of a long lost friend found in a distant place. Language further adds to the community bonding as everyone who can’t speak Bengoli automatically gets side tracked.

Thus even in today’s social media dictated world where Facebook and Twitter are acting as the great leveler, it’s quite possible to find two bengolies connecting solely with “Ki Holo”

Bottom line – While my exposure and interest has risen considerably and Durga Puja has become a regular in my festival calendar also, I envy Bengolies …

–                     For your ability to speak /catch more languages (Oriya, Assamees to name a few)

–                     For your respecting demeanor towards women and giving more important to Goddesses

–                     For your community bonding

And above all for your strong culture … hail Bengal!

Break away from the routine

February 18, 2010 Leave a comment

There hasn’t been anything to write … nothing good enough to motivate or inspire to write for long time now. I dunno if I have run out of words … pages or feelings had dried out! But something must have broken the monotony … inspired me enough to write and so I am here. Without diving too deep into this deliberation I ll just focus on the recent summit I attended … something which has given me food for thought and words to write about.

I usually find the summits/conferences boring as they are usually one way conversation and there is no real communication. People talk a lot without giving any attention if all that they are saying is striking a chord with the audience… sometimes to the extent that all discussions are miles away from the theme and expectations! As I understand (and I am still a learner!) these conference and summits are gatherings where famous people come together and showcase all that has been incubating in their cells (grey!!!) while they were sitting in their small isolated nests (coveted positions) perched on the highest possible branches of the socialized world (read BIG corporate and educational institutions). Summits to them are coming down to the reality level and see if there ideas get respected and accepted…in some cases its also about free trips to their native places or a paid holiday trip!!!

This summit was same. But just as always happens there were some wanderers who wanted to break away from the mundane and blow their own trumpet even at the cost of sounding nerd. Now sounding nerd is not bad – it just requires courage!!!

And to my surprise there were quite a few nerds in this summit!

The discussion was around education – challenges, opportunities, options, variables, parameters, collaboration and the take of the corporate and the educational world on these. Speakers were from some of the best set ups and had varied experiences most of the times at loggerhead with each other which is usually the case. But surprisingly, when I looked at the entire event in totality it was not very difficult to summaries all such varied speeches, interaction and deliberations. Looking at the canvas of the summit I realized that all (ok… almost all of them) were talking the same language … looking in the same direction and aiming for same outputs. This is no ordinary feat!

Infact all that they said could be put together in a set of few simple doable practical pointers –

  • Don’t let routine set in
  • Be innovative
  • Be flexible
  • Be competitive
  • Be accountable
  • Take ownership
  • Least possible check points
  • Give chance to new things/new ideas

Asking for a feedback at the end of the summit, a management student aptly summarized “the summit echoes all that Rancho had proposed, prescribed and used in the movie ‘3 Idiots’!”

Trivia

December 30, 2009 Leave a comment

To be having a thing and not knowing that it is there… is like not having it at all … true for awareness, love, warmth. 

And to live in the ignorant state would be the biggest tragedy!!!

Passion…contd…again

December 30, 2009 Leave a comment

Passion is to do … to be … with no expectations… and no attachments!!!

Passion … contd.

December 30, 2009 Leave a comment

Passion is God wanting to say ‘Hi’